Published on MilwaukeeMoms.com – Coach Bx’s Candid Corner
Jan. 14, 2010
Right before Christmas, I was stunned to discover that an acquaintance had drowned to death while vacationing in India. He was only 29 years old. I did not know him well, but I knew we shared a similar vision, mission and zest for life. Regardless of the fact that I hadn’t experienced much loss in my life, I naturally was saddened by his premature departure from this world. He had made such a great impact on mankind over the past couple of years as an inspirational speaker, coach and trainer. As a fellow human being, I thought it was a shame that we wouldn’t get to see the life’s work of a person who exemplified positivity and great influence.
Nearly a day after receiving that news, I was shocked to discover that a good friend of mine had lost everything he owned in a house fire in the late night before Christmas Eve. He and his son survived the fire with just the pajamas on their backs. Everything else, including their dog, was lost in the fire. Truly an amazing friend in my own professional and personal circles, he is the kind of person who strives to drive impact and connect people to each other. As a divorced father who adores his son like no other and one who has worked very hard to help and support his family and friends, I was again in such a state of disbelief and wonder that this could happen to such a person.
Both very tragic occurrences, I found it difficult to initially find the silver lining in these stories. Some might say, “It happened for a reason,” while others might say, “What horrible luck!” There really is no right or wrong reaction to this. Because at the end of the day, we end up making it about “us” when it really is about them. I just found it to be very heartfelt and so I was left to ponder for a day or so during my out-of-town visit to see family.
I was determined to put things into perspective, because that’s just what I do. And, so, I did. While conducting my daily FaceBook check-in, and other social media activities, I decided to visit the pages of the two fellows to pay my respect. I was truly inspired to leave comments on their pages to let them know that they were being remembered. I just couldn’t wait to start writing and sending them my words of encouragement.
What I uncovered on their pages filled me up with even more inspiration, optimism and hope. Family, friends, peers, acquaintances, even strangers were leaving very thoughtful comments to provide support during such a difficult time. In fact, a page on Facebook was created in memory of the fellow who passed away and a donation page was created for my friend who lost everything in the fire!
So, you might be curious to know whether I found the silver lining in all of this. Or, you may have already gained greater perspective on your own from what you’ve read. When I think about all of the things I have learned in life and through my coaching, I know that we gain invaluable wisdom from all of our experiences, good or bad. I know that we are not immune to having bad things happen to us and that although we can cheat death only for some time, that one day it is inevitable that we will expire.
What makes me smile is the reality that the human race is an interconnected unit in this life and in this world. When bad things happen to us, the nature of our human race compels us to reach out and touch one another. Not expecting anything in return other than the intent of being good, kind, and supportive to other humans in need, we step outside of our lives for a moment and become involved in this movement. “The Golden Rule” or “Paying it Forward” or whatever term you may use for it, it is a positive and humanitarian event.
With that, I thank you for reading this blog and allowing me to share these personal stories with you. If there is anything I can offer you today, I would like to share with you this poem that I had also shared during my last keynote address. I urge you to take a couple of minutes out of your day to view it and share it with others – truly an inspirational piece: http://www.thedashmovie.com/
To a Balanced Life and Happy New Year,