Published on LifeAfterHate.org August 18, 2010 A few weeks ago I was devastated to learn I was unable to attend the Annual Block Party hosted by TRUE Skool, a youth advocacy group that promotes hip-hop art and culture as a means of creative expression and educational development. My 16-year-old son and I were psyched to […]
Published on LifeAfterHate.org July 18, 2010 THERE’S EVERYTHING RIGHT ABOUT BEING UNIQUE This is my positive spin on, “There’s nothing wrong with being different!” For over a year now, I have wanted to bring up this topic: Why are we judged and criticized for challenging the status quo? So, you ask, why do people judge […]
At the time, being a teenager myself, I was emotionally scarred by the experience and had made a connection between the color of black skin and being assaulted. The pain of this memory became so deeply rooted in me that when I became single, I still was not interested in dating black men. Some people call this being racist. Some call it having a preference. I prefer to not put a label on it. I simply wanted to share that for over a decade, I lived in shame as I kept this secret to myself.
As I encounter countless challenges that will block the path along my journey in life, I can only aspire to overcome adversity with as much poise as my parents exhibited when they were my age fleeing their country to stay alive.
I tease myself about this experience because I realized that even something as silly as meeting a pop star could inspire and motivate me to create new habits so that I could transform my body and life into what I wanted.