In 2008, I took a leap of faith from my cushy corporate sales job and launched my first entrepreneurial endeavor.
I had little cash reserves but a lot of ambition.
As with any major transition, I got sick three weeks into building my new venture. Was hospitalized for a week and forced to fast during my entire stay. On day seven, I was discharged with a $40,000 medical bill and a $40 prescription to rid of the parasitic infection contracted from the hospital bed.
If you’d have said to me, ‘Things happen for a reason,’ I would have told you to take your yoga mat and shove it where the sun don’t shine.
The saying “Stress Kills” is no joke. Nothing can ever prepare you for epic fails like these.
Times when your back is up against the wall.
Losing thousands of dollars quickly.
Feeling like a good-for-nothing waste of space.
For a few days during my downward spiral, I entertained the idea of letting myself wither away to nothing so my son could collect my life insurance.
When you’re stuck in a funk replaying the I shoulda-woulda-coulda tapes, it’s hard to break through the negative self-talk alone. I thank my lucky stars I surrounded myself with good people. I needed help (A LOT OF IT!) getting out of one of the most debilitating times in my life.
One golden nugget I keep with me every day is something my coach taught me that cold November day in 2008.
Have an attitude of gratitude.
“Take one positive action each day,” she told me. “Because undoing the past is impossible, and worrying about the future will keep you feeling paralyzed. Focus on the present, it’s a gift.”
One week into my recovery, I volunteered at a non-profit organization. I needed to get my mind off my first failed business attempt and recent breakup. Serving others in greater need became my saving grace. Doing good work for the sheer sake of the good-doing gave me a greater sense of purpose outside of my own four crumbling walls.
Some call me emotionally resilient for being of service when I was in dire need of help. The truth is, I was looking for any reason to wake up at all each day.
Day by day, I retrained my body to swallow food again and walk without assistance after my muscles had atrophied. As my health gradually improved, I got back on the job boards and put my entrepreneurial failure behind me. I was desperate to rebuild my life, career, and self-esteem.
By day 36 of my recovery, I landed a new job.
Nine months later, the universe tossed another boulder on my plans.
I was back in transition once again.
Standing at the crossroads this time around, I realized I had reached another season in my life. For over 12 years, I had chased someone else’s dream thinking I needed more stuff to prove to everyone I had “made it.” But no matter how much stuff I had accumulated or achieved throughout my corporate sales career, nothing money could buy would ever fill the void inside me.
So I chose to follow my heart and trust my intuition.
I began offering pro bono coaching services to support an organically built network of aspiring entrepreneurs and dislocated workers who were feeling hopeless, powerless, and defeated during the recession. Within weeks, workforce development groups and local universities were seeking me out for speaking, training, and writing projects.
For the decade that followed, I devoted my life and work to coaching, consulting, and training thousands of people on how to speak up, stand out, and change their corners of the world. Most of that time, I continued to give away much of my work for free.
Then I reached another season in my life and career.
I grew lonely and exhausted in my solo operation. So I took a hiatus from coaching, turned inward to work on my own self-healing, and threw myself into other meaningful projects and programs I could support behind the scenes.
In that time out of the spotlight, I ran an integrative health education center, worked on book projects with over a dozen inspiring authors, and designed and developed engaging training solutions for a billion-dollar company. Wearing the producer and director hats, instead of being the “leading lady,” was such an invaluable experience. I had to pinch myself often because the projects and programs were so aligned with the kind of impact I wanted to make.
There were also times when I had my integrity challenged and values compromised. That’s when I pulled out my own strategies and tools to stay true to my core, to be brave even when it was inconvenient, and to remain resilient even with no end in sight.
And by living and breathing my Brave Bear ethos as I navigated that chapter of my life, somehow, I reignited the joy and excitement I once had for coaching. Any doubt I had in my ability to make a difference—to speak up, stand out, and change my world—gone.
The lesson: “You already are enough.”
Duly noted, Universe.
THE STREET CRED
Hi, I’m Berni Xiong (shUNG).
I’m a truth guide, intuitive business coach and trainer, and proud mom.
In the first season of my professional career, I managed 6- and 7-figure budgets while rubbing elbows with Fortune 500 executives. The greatest lesson I learned was to stop “selling at” customers and instead become their trusted go-to resource.
The second season I dedicated my life and work to coaching and training career employees, small business owners and solopreneurs who wanted help navigating difficult transitions in life, work and love. During that time, I mastered the art of networking and became a sought-out speaker and life coach expert giving talks and interviews that have reached hundreds of thousands of people across the globe.
The third season I deliberately took myself out of the spotlight to develop my intuitive gifts and throw myself into other meaningful projects and programs I could support behind the scenes. Wearing the producer and director hats, instead of being the “leading lady,” was such an invaluable experience and brought me full circle.
Today, I’m devoted to helping my fellow emerging intuitives of our “sandwich generation” to optimize their time, energy, and dollar as they bravely speak up, stand out, and change their corners of the world.
A little bit about my education…
I received a Master of Arts in Business Administration (MBA) in which I graduated with distinction and was inducted into Delta mu Delta, a national honor society in business administration. Currently, I am working on a Master of Science in Maharishi Ayurveda and Integrative Medicine.
In addition to my formal education, I also received professional training in several coaching and healing modalities, including:
- Certified Health Coach (in progress)
- Color Therapy Training
- ICF-Accredited Coach Training
- Intuitive & Spiritual Development
- Karuna Ki Reiki Master
- Ordained Minister
- Spiritual Business Mentoring
- Trancendental Meditation
- Usui Reiki Level I, II, and Master/Teacher
- Weight Management Specialist
Some other cool stuff…
I am the author of The Year of the Brave Bear: Speak Up. Stand Out. Change Your World.; author and publisher of its paperback companion The Way of the Brave Bear: An Intuitive Guide for Speaking Up, Standing Out and Changing Your World; and a contributing author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Time to Thrive.
I offer free online business education and spiritual development for emerging intuitives at Brave Bear University.
My podcasts and web shows have reached over 188,000 fans in 76 countries.
In my spare time, I give away a lot of my best stuff for free in The Brave Bear Insider.